Help your child succeed with schoolwork. #visualtimer http://ow.ly/ooX47
Tip #19: In my experience, codependent behavior are very common with ADHD adults. Especially when diagnosis didn’t happen until later in life. I’m not going to go into the details of codependency in this post, but if you struggle with relationships it may be worth looking into. A very simple and easy to understand book that I found very helpful for myself is “Codependency For Dummies” by Darlene Lancer. Learn, Grow, and be Successful. http://ow.ly/ng7Ec and visit http://www.whatiscodependency.com/
Tip #18: It is easy to sometimes get hyperfocused on learning about your ADHD. There are a lot of books, websites, and resources that offer tips and advice. Fact! Simply reading and listening about how to manage ADHD will not help. You must DO something! All that information coming at you can be so overwhelming, that you won’t even start.
Learning to manage ADHD is not an overnight task and trying to make it one is setting yourself up for failure. Start with realistic goals in mind and take some small steps. Set yourself up for success, and more success will follow.
From what ever ADHD book you are reading, or resource you are gathering tips from, choose one thing to implement into your life. Once you have a handle on that one change, then focus on the next. You will be much more likely to be successful and less overwhelmed by the management process.
You can do this!! http://ow.ly/i/2GNs8
Tip #17: “Create something to make the world awesome!” http://ow.ly/n727h
Tip #16: Problem Solving. Another paradox of the ADHD world is problem solving. One minute we’re lucky to get out of the house with all our clothes on straight, the next we have resolved some extremely technical problem that the highest paid professionals in the field have been working on for years.
My belief is that this unbalanced problem solving issue comes down to expectations of how we believe have to happen, or what we think is the “right” way to do something.
There is a term in psychology called “Functional Fixedness” (Yes, it’s a real term). It means to fail at solving a problem because of a result of fixation on a thing’s usual functions.
This likely is not a issue when you are presented with a novel problem to solve with no prior expectations linked to it. It’s usually the everyday problems that we have come to believe need to be done in a specific way. succeeding over functional fixedness might require admitting to yourself that your past strategies are just not ideal, even if they did work for your big brother, Bob. So for some effective problem solving, don’t be afraid to use that out of the box thinking you are able to use in other novel contexts.
some of you may have experienced this during major life changes and found the old way of doing things suddenly didn’t work any more, but still tried marching on with the same old strategies. Examples of these times can be the transition from high school and living with parents to create structure to starting collage and living on your own; or going from the structure of your academic lifestyle, and then entering the professional workforce which requires a different set of structures.
If this is something you really struggle with, often a personal coach / ADHD coach, or a therapist can help you work through creating new and successful strategies. http://ow.ly/i/2DDvU
Tip #15: Don’t work harder. Instead work different. For some things this can be an easy concept. For other things this means challenging long held belief systems and expectations.
How do you work “harder” at paying attention? How do you work “harder” at managing impulsiveness. How do you work harder at remembering? Most likely, you can’t. One of the many ADHD paradoxes; the harder you work at it, the worse it gets.
Instead, work differently at focus, impulsiveness, or memory. ie: address distractions in your environment, learn what time of day you’re most attentive, address issues that are causing anxiety.
Break issues down and create a simple strategy to start implementing changes in what ever area of life you have been trying to work harder at. Use your creative brain to make it happen the way you need it to happen. It doesn’t have to look or work just like everyone else s. http://ow.ly/i/2D1mG
Tip #14: Memory. If you often feel forgetful or have difficulty recalling information on demand, one can easily blame it on being stupid or intelligent. This is not the case my friend. More than likely you are over loading your working memory. Like a computer’s RAM, there is only so much available. Try and reduce your multi-tasking and bring your intentions into your awareness.
some simple ways to improve recalling information:
Be attentive to the information your trying to receive. Avoid dividing your attention.
Think about how the information your receiving may have meaning for you.
Make associations with the material your trying to remember
Use imagery: information associated with images is quicker and easier to recall.
Remember that your brain is a physical organ and needs to be well taken care of. Give it proper rest, nourishment with a good diet, and keep it free from mind-altering substances. http://ow.ly/i/2Ct4S